The Comfort Theory, as I said in one of my previous posts, was started by this awesome chick Mckenzie Barney. I met her through the grapevine and it turned out we shared a similar love for trying new things, seeing the world, storytelling and taking pictures. She has a soul that moves at the speed of sound and curiosity that could take her to the moon if she willed it to. She is a wild child with powerful diction and an ability to excite people into pushing their own personal boundaries. Hence the name “Comfort Theory”.
Living in your comfort zone is… comfortable. It’s your place where you don’t have to extend yourself, make yourself vulnerable and potentially lose. However, it’s also the place where you can’t really win either. It’s the place movement is slowed and routine sets in. Mckenzie and the Comfort Theory crew set out to challenge this idea and do something that would push their personal boundaries. Their big ideas landed them on a journey of walking across New Zealand.
Walking across a country never really appealed to me like it does to some people. Just as playing soccer might not really appeal to some people. It’s just not on everyone’s agenda. So when this opportunity presented itself I was more intrigued by the opportunity to take some pictures, learn a new set of skills from some brilliant people and see a new part of the world. But about a week in I realized that the purpose of this trip for the Comfort Theory team was not just to take pictures and learn some skills but to actually walk across the country… And that’s where our differences laid.
I truly believe in the Comfort Theory. In order to be the best you, to find your success, to reach your goals you must stretch yourself, really put yourself out there and know you can very easily fail, but that is a risk you must take if you want to achieve your goals. But as I was walking I realized that this walk is not my personal boundary pusher, that is not a goal I set out to achieve.
You see, I coach for Pro Skills and we run clinics for women’s leagues. Many of the women who come out for their first time say they are so nervous to be there because they have never played before and they think they will be embarrassed. But if they don’t come to training, if they don’t even try to learn, they will never improve. My grandma came out to one of these clinics and it was one of the most inspiring moments of my life, to see her put herself out there, willing to learn and try hard. And that was her pushing her comfort zone.
I share that story because everyone has their personal comfort zone boundary. For some it is trying a new sport, learning a new activity, for others it is trying their hardest in a project at work or even just talking to someone new. What ever your personal boundary is, the Comfort Theory encourages you to push it, be brave and find success in YOUR OWN PERSONAL journey.
The walk across New Zealand is not my personal journey and I realized that fairly soon into the trek. And as much as I didn’t want to leave the group or the mission of the Comfprt Theory, I felt it unfair for me to detract from their experience as well as my own. And that is why I jumped off the Comfort Theory-New Zealand ship in order to find my own personal boundary pusher.
I am not quite sure what that looks like yet. As strange as it sounds my comfort zone has always been in moving fast, going from one thing to the next and never looking back nor really stopping to listen, think and just be quiet for a bit. So even though it seems like the opposite of an ideal Comfort Theory journey, my current personal boundary needs to be pushed by slowing down, doing less and listening to my heart until I feel ready to move again.
I left the group just before they did a week long canoe trip down the Wanganui River and instead I boarded a plane headed south down to beautiful Queenstown. And can I just say that is a city everyone needs to see, it is incredibly beautiful.
Anyways, this is how I ended up here in a hostel with my best friend and her wife for the last few days of my journey in New Zealand. There will still be more to share but I wanted to keep everyone up to speed with my plans.